Windows to Internal Anchoring
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Scripts for short Silence practices18 Resources
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3 Breath Mindfulness
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10 Breath Mindfulness
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Attention to Rythemic Breathing
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Awareness of breath
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Awareness of Sensations in the Body Grounding
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Becoming aware of emotions in the body
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Mindful Eating
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Mindfulness of Breath
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Mirroring my partner
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Moment of Compassion
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Observing Sensations in the body
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Observing the body & mind
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Observing the mind
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Pebble Meditation
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Resourcing
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The 3 good things
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Visualizing an year from now
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Walking mindfully
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3 Breath Mindfulness
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Journaling Practices8 Resources
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Research and Resources5 Resources
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How to Get Smarter, One Breath at a Time - Lisa Takeuchi Cullen
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Miracle of Mindfulness - Thich Nhat Hanh
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The neuroscience of religious and spiritual experience - Ana Sandoui
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This is your brain on prayer and meditation - Nicole Specter
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Vision and Breathing May Be the Secrets to Surviving 2020 - Jessica Wapner
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How to Get Smarter, One Breath at a Time - Lisa Takeuchi Cullen
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Covid 19 - Readings for Wellness10 Resources
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Compassion and solidarity series
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Conscious WFH series
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Emotional wellness Series
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Mindfullness Series
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Resilience Series
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Responsibility series
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How to Deal with fear, suffering and death - Thich Nhat Hanh
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To the Human Race - For hope.
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Staying Mindful When You’re Working Remotely - Alyson Meister and Amanda Sinclair
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On life and death- Nitya Shanti
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Compassion and solidarity series
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Question
Hi Nithya,
I lost my grandfather recently and it has badly affected my 11 year old daughter.She says now she dreams of us (her parents) being dead and is totally heartbroken. Could you suggest how to deal with it?
R) Dear __,
What would help is if you held space for her feelings and emotions. So if she is expressing she misses him, allow her to share what she misses, what she is feeling and what thoughts she has. Validate those emotions and hold them with empathy without trying to move her away from them. This will help her work through the grief she is experiencing which is natural and normal.
After this process it will also be useful to have a conversation about life and death with your daughter. Take her for a walk in nature and ask her what she notices.
Gently point out to her and invite her to reflect on how the death of a cloud leads to rain, and the death of a rain drop leads to the nourishment of a seed, and the breaking open of the seed leads to the birth of a tree and the death of a tree to a richly nourished soil for other trees and flowers and fruits.
Notice how birth and death are inevitably interconnected like the in and out breath, and this is neither a good nor a bad thing. The real meaning of death is transformation; that is all. To prefer life over death is like saying I prefer breathing in, not out; or I prefer holding something, and never putting it down.
Death is what makes every moment and every relationship so precious and important. Change is what allows everything to happen. So have this kind of an open conversation with her without trying to get her to feel or think differently.
This creates a space in which a very beautiful healing is possible. It may not take away the pain of losing a loved one, but it will imbue it with a whole new meaning that releases a lot of the suffering.
I wish her and all of you peace of heart.
Nithya Shanti